You might be finding yourselves having the same arguments again and again, or avoiding certain conversations because they feel too difficult to get right.
Things may feel tense, distant, or stuck, or perhaps something has shifted and you’re not sure how to find your way back to each other.
Couples therapy offers a space to look at what’s really going on between you, and to begin to do something different with it.
Who I work with
I work with couples who are dealing with:
Repeated arguments or communication that goes nowhere
Feeling disconnected, distant, or emotionally out of sync
Difficulties around trust, including after an affair
Sexual challenges or differences in desire
Feeling stuck in patterns that don’t seem to change
Life transitions that have impacted the relationship
You don’t need to arrive with a clear explanation of the problem. Often, part of the work is figuring that out together.
How Couples Therapy Works
In couples therapy, the focus is on the relationship between you. How you communicate, where things get stuck, and what happens in those moments, rather than on either person as “the problem.”
Sessions are a space where we don’t just talk about your relationship, but where we can notice it happening in real time.
I take an active role in sessions. That might mean:
helping to slow things down when conversations escalate
asking direct questions
drawing attention to patterns as they emerge
supporting each of you to say what’s often hard to say
The aim isn’t just insight, but helping you find more useful ways of relating to each other.
My Approach
My approach is engaged, collaborative, and grounded in what actually happens between you.
I won’t sit back and say very little, and I won’t take sides. Instead, I work with both of you to understand the dynamic you’re in, and how each of you contributes to it — often in ways that aren’t immediately obvious.
I’m interested in being honest and useful, while also making sure the space feels steady enough for both of you to stay in the conversation.
Therapy can involve looking at difficult or uncomfortable areas, but always at a pace that feels manageable.
Sex and Intimacy
Difficulties around sex and intimacy are very common in relationships, but can often feel the hardest to talk about.
This might include:
differences in desire
loss of intimacy
feeling pressure, avoidance, or frustration
changes following life events or relationship difficulties
These are things I work with openly and without judgement.
There is no expectation that you should “have this sorted” before coming to therapy.
Creating space to talk about sex in a straightforward and non-shaming way is often an important part of the work.
Practical Details
I offer three session lengths, depending on what feels most suitable for you as a couple:
60 minutes — £80
75 minutes — £100
90 minutes — £130
Longer sessions can be particularly helpful for couples work, as they allow more space to explore things in depth without feeling rushed.
Sessions are available in person or online via Zoom.
Sessions are usually weekly, although this can be flexible depending on your circumstances.
If you’re unsure whether couples therapy would be helpful, you’re welcome to arrange a free, short phone call to discuss this before booking an initial session.
Frequently Asked Questions
What if one of us is unsure about coming?
It’s very common for one person to feel more ready than the other. We can start from there — there’s no expectation that you both feel the same.
Will you take sides?
No. My role is to work with both of you and to understand what’s happening between you, rather than to decide who is right or wrong.
What if we argue in the session?
That can be part of the work. I’ll help to slow things down so that it doesn’t become overwhelming or unproductive.
Do we need to agree on what the problem is first?
Not at all. Often couples arrive with very different views — making space for that is part of the process.